Love is a Choice
- Caroline Myss, Sacred Contract
- Michael Meade, Fate & Destiny
- David Brooks, The Road to Character
What are Archetypes?
“Baby, I was born this way” – Lady Gaga
Carl Jung believed that every person is born with behavioral and emotional patterns which he coined, “Archetypes”. Archetypes are universal and contain both light and shadow.Therefore, they are neutral. Just saying the name, it evokes immediate understanding of the meaning, feelings, and motives. Here’s some examples: Child, Victim, Saboteur and the Prostitute.
She points out accurately what the verse does not say, “love feels patient, love feels kind, love does not feel jealous”. The operative words are verbs: is, bears, hopes, endures. “Love is a choice”, she says confidently. It is our choice to bear, hope, endure, act with integrity, and give love. The nun, advises us to do an experiment and replace the word “Love” with a person’s name who is important in our lives. “(Name) is patient, (Name) is kind…” This lesson plan shifts my whole perspective about “love”. I keep this lesson in my heart during my dating phase. In my twenties, I can sense when a person is offering romantic love versus true commitment.
- The Child archetype is both hopeful & naïve, trusting & entitled, adventurous & lazy.
- The Victim archetype is both fearful & intuitive, angry & resolved, broken & victorious.
- The Saboteur is the disrupter that stops you at every turn from fulfilling your dream as well as making you reexamine your choices for survival like jumping off an actual cliff. Do you really want to do this?
- The Prostitute archetype is the negotiator who will negotiate your power away for something. This is the same energy which fuels you not to negotiate your integrity away and have faith.
Caroline Myss – Sacred Contract
- Clarity as an observer. Seeing through an archetypal lens helps you to step back and look at the bigger picture. Life truly is influenced by your perceptions and perspective. Your perception is formed by your thoughts and feelings of the situation and the position you are viewing what you are seeing. As you engage in this world, you must deal with other people’s perception and perspective which maybe harmonious or conflicting. Seeing the big picture will give you clarity.
- Know thyself. Exploration of your archetypes allows you to see where you place your power in relationship to yourself, others, and fated circumstances. Do you react? Do you blame? Are you mindful? Do you take responsibilities for your own actions? Can you negotiate your power without giving it away for the sake of a job, materialism, love, health, addiction and so on? When you gain the ability to recognize when you are losing your power, you will then have the choice to claim your power back. The by product is the enhancement of your self-esteem and value.
- Empathy towards others. When you understand how archetypes work in you, you will learn to recognize them in others and develop empathy towards them. Human beings are full of depth and therefore you begin to see them in a new perspective. You learn not to take things personally as you understand that there are issues they are working through.
- You always have a choice. No matter how difficult things can be, you always have a choice and your choices have consequences. Consistently choosing to confront and work through your shadows empowers the soul to develop characteristics filled with grace, humility, and empathy. Consistently choosing to succumb to your shadows/weakness splinters the soul, you become fragmented and locked in suffering.
- You now have guidance: In Myss’s words “Your archetypes are the guides on this path of realization—-twelve lifelong companions that show you the pitfalls and the greatness along the road to deep inner joy. In understanding them, you gain a perspective that stokes your creative fire, enlivens your relationships, increases your vitality, and deepens your spirituality.”
Michael Meade – The Genius Myth, Fate and Destiny
“At the end of life, you’ll be asked one question: did you become yourself or do you wait for death to tell you who you are?” – Michael Meade
- Spirit is connected to elements of fire and air and is inclined to rise. It is the fire that burns within us to be something and do something, have a peak experience and reach our highest potential. Spirit sparks ideas to move forward, expand go beyond. Spirit has connection and communication with God and leads us to possibilities and hope for the future. Soul is connected to elements of earth and water and is inclined to descend and get into the depth of things. Like the water seeping down to the depths of the earth to nurture her, the soul loves to go deep in the understanding of yourself, others, and what life is about. It leads to a deep desire to touch one’s own life and get in touch with the lives of others.
- Fate and Destiny are two agreements our soul agrees to prior to being born. Fate is being born at a certain time, in a certain place, to be with a particular family, or being born with a certain body with inner complexities that you must manage. Fate is anything that limits your life. Destiny is the opposite of fate which is your ability to transcend limitations in order to reach your highest potential. There’s a thread that pulls both your fate and destiny to a revelation of the deep self that is within us.
- Fate and Destiny is intertwined. “Twist of fate” calls you to face your fate to find your destiny. The wound in one person can become the door through which everyone can find the center of life again. (Two Agreement of the Soul) Examine those times you have felt pain and suffering. There’s a genius in your method of survival. That genius is your soul’s purpose.
- If you fail to confront your fate, you will miss the opportunity to find your genius and all would not have been worthwhile. In the end of your life you will be asked, “Did you become yourself? Or did you become an imitation of someone else?” Fate and Destiny the two agreements are what you struggle with throughout your life.
- He inspires you to find your genius and encourages you to share them with the world. Those who have seen and lived through the struggles are called to mentor others. Mentoring others along their journey is crucial to helping the young generation cultivate their genius. Human beings long for connection, and our sense of usefulness derives from the feeling of connectedness. (The Genius Myth)
David Brooks – The Road to Character
- believed the human mind is capable of comprehending but also doing so with a sense of humility, compassion, and charity.
- tried to pin down the chaos of existence in prose and create a sense of internal order and discipline.
- Johnson investigated the world to become his desired self;
- He’s trying to fire moral ardor and get ambitious bourgeois people to focus on ultimate truths.
- Johnson tried to lift people up to emulate heroes. [iv]
- The perpetual confrontation of Adam 1 and Adam 2 is part of the internal conflict that plays within you. In many societies money, success, and fame (Adam 1) are the driving forces that eludes to happiness. Yet there have been countless famous influential people who seem to have it all, only to take their own lives. Which Adam do you choose to cultivate?
- Wisdom isn’t a body of information. It’s the moral quality of knowing what you don’t know and figuring out a way to handle your ignorance, uncertainty, and limitations.
- Character is built from the struggle against your own weakness.